Light some candles, turn the lights down low, and put on your favorite soft and sultry music. Let me entice you to slow down into sensual nourishment and bliss…
This has been one challenging year for all of us. In order to help keep each other safe, we have had to distance from one another socially. Yet our bodies crave physical connection — hugs and touch — especially during times of stress. How can we meet those needs even in these times of separation?
Well, for the last few years, I have been learning and writing about the aphrodisiac qualities of herbs, and specifically how herbs can support healthy sensuality and sexuality. (Look for a book on this topic from me in the spring!) My explorations have taught me that cultivating healthy erotic energy in our lives can help us feel more vibrant, confident, safe, and happy. As we call on the herbs for support, we can increase those kinds of feelings whether we have a romantic partner or not.
An Invitation for You
I’m going to share an herbal aphrodisiac tea recipe from my book for you to try out: Warm Caress Tea with Kava Coconut Creamer. Your sensual evening begins with the slow, intentional preparation of this herbal delight. Set aside some time to really sink into sensation. This evening of romance can be for you and your love or simply an evening of self-love and connection to your own sensuality.
My intention is that this invitation is a gift for you, permission to step out of the monotonous routines of life in quarantine, to allow stress to melt away, and indulge your desires for connection and intimacy.
Let’s end this year together in celebration of the amazing gift of being alive in human bodies that are capable of open-hearted, loving connection and endless pleasurable sensations.
Herbal Aphrodisiac Tea
Begin your evening with the slow, sensual preparation of this Warm Caress Tea. Take time to appreciate the beauty and fragrance of each herb in the blend before you drop it into the water. Feel their textures in your hands. Allow this time with the herbs to calm your mind and bring you into your sensual body.
As the herbs simmer, breathe deeply of their scent filling your kitchen. Cinnamon and cloves, especially, wrap me in the loving warmth that the holidays can bring to this time of year. Fenugreek adds a delicious maple scent. Cardamom and coriander bring a whiff of the exotic…
If you choose to add the Kava Coconut Creamer to your herbal aphrodisiac tea, set an intention for the unfolding of this evening, and while the tea simmers, knead your intention into the coconut milk along with the kava goodness.
Kava (Piper methysticum) is an herb that is traditionally used ceremonially in the Pacific Islands. I have found it to be deeply relaxing for my body and mind. Kava can bring feelings of euphoric bliss, perfect for open-hearted, romantic connection. It is a powerful herb to be used with deep respect. It is also quite pricey right now as a result of natural disasters in the islands where it is grown, but if you happen to have some on hand, this creamer is divine!
Set Your Intention
Even without the kava, taking time to set an intention for your evening can help you slow down and enjoy it even more. It is in the slow, sensual moments that romantic and erotic energy blossom. Perhaps you would like open-hearted connection with yourself or your love. Perhaps you would like to let your mind fully relax and sink into sweet sensation.
Stir your intention into the tea, and while it simmers, set up a beautiful, warm, cozy place to relax and enjoy your tea, and perhaps a space for massage or snuggling with a partner or a soft, cozy blanket. Allow yourself to enjoy the anticipation of the evening to come.
Warm Caress Tea
What you’ll need…
- 1 heaping teaspoon fenugreek seeds
- 1 cinnamon stick
- 1 heaping teaspoon grated fresh ginger
- 1 teaspoon cardamom pods, crushed
- ¼ teaspoon whole cloves
- ¼ teaspoon black peppercorns
- 2 whole star anise pods or 1/2 teaspoon fennel seeds
- 1 teaspoon whole allspice
- 4 cups water
- Cream, coconut milk, or Kava Coconut Creamer, honey, and/or rosewater to taste
- Combine all the herbs and spices in a saucepan with the water.
- Bring to a boil and reduce the heat to a simmer.
- Allow it to simmer for at least 20 minutes.
- Strain into cups and add extras to taste.
Yield: 2 cups
Kava Coconut Creamer (Recipe by Hanna Nicole)
What you’ll need…
- 1 can full-fat coconut milk
- 1/4 cup powdered kava root
- Pour the coconut milk into a large bowl.
- Place the kava powder into a muslin bag and submerge it in the coconut milk (keeping the opening out of the milk so the powder stays in the bag) and knead the bag with your hand to release the kava goodness into the milk.
May we all navigate these changing times with as much ease and grace as possible, staying connected to our bodies, and allowing the herbs to support us in cultivating sensual, erotic energy to help carry us through.
P.S. Herbalism is truly a reciprocal practice; we care for the herbs and they support our physical health and well-being. If you enjoy kava, consider making a holiday donation to help support the kava farmers in the Pacific Islands who are facing both the COVID pandemic and the aftermath of Cyclone Gita in 2020. You can help by donating to the Red Cross Pacific Disaster Fund.